Introverts vs Extroverts

It can be a fun icebreaker: Are you an introvert or extrovert? While we tend to identify with either the introspective introvert or the outgoing extrovert, figuring out where you fall on the personality spectrum isn’t always that simple. “When we think about introverts and extroverts, a lot of us have preconceived notions,” says health psychologist Grace Tworek, PsyD. And many of those beliefs aren’t necessarily true. For example, not all introverts are shy or suffer from anxiety. And when it comes to extroverts, not everyone is overbearing or aggressive. Most importantly, not one personality type is better over the other. Dr. Tworek explains what sets introverts and extroverts apart and how to figure out where you fall on the personality spectrum.

What is the difference between an introvert and an extrovert?

Extroversion and introversion refer to where someone gets their energy from. The difference between

an extrovert and an introvert is extroverts are energized through socialization and collaboration,

whereas introverts receive energy from alone time or in social settings with much smaller groups.

Characteristics of an introvert Some characteristics of an introvert include:

You’re a natural listener.

You enjoy alone time.

You avoid conflict.

You consider things carefully.

You’re creative.

Characteristics of an extrovert Some characteristics of an introvert include:

You enjoy working in a group.

You’re always up to try new things.

You can be impulsive.

You like to talk through problems.

You make friends easily.

How to tell if you’re an introvert or extrovert

“When we think about introverts vs. extroverts, it’s not all that clear-cut in terms of if you’re one or the other,” says Dr. Tworek. “You might have traits of one. But that doesn’t mean all these traits are going to fully apply to you.” For example, you may have certain qualities at work that are more extroverted, like leading meetings and speaking up, and in your personal life, you might be more introverted and like to spend time alone to recharge and have a close-knit group of friends. If you have a mix of traits, you could be an ambivert, somewhere in between being an introvert or extrovert. You may excel in social settings and spending time alone. You may also have good active listening skills — engaging in conversation with others while being able to provide a considerate reply. So, how can you figure out where you fall on the personality spectrum? While there are plenty of online tests that use a series of questions to determine your personality type, Dr. Tworek says the best place to start is with yourself. “A really good way to tell is just to do a little bit of introspection,” she suggests. “Start by reflecting on your own experiences and when you’re most comfortable. There’s no right or wrong answer. It’s really about your personal preference, what feels best for you.” And if you’re having a tough time figuring it out, you can ask those close to you for their observations. “You can ask them if you’re the type of person who tends to speak up,” Dr. Tworek says. “Feedback from someone you trust and feel comfortable with can give you some insight.”